According to Webster’s dictionary abuse is defined as: maltreat, misuse, violate, improper treatment…to name just a few.
This morning I read a blog about a woman with several small children who lived in mortal fear of her then ex-husband. One Christmas morning, they packed up a meager amount of belongings, each child took one toy and they left. With God’s help, and the help of caring people, she was able to put the terror she had lived in behind her. Today she lives to help other women and children who are in the place she and her children were.
My question is: What about her/their abuser? God, does he pay? I will answer my own question. Yes, he pays. The Bible says: “Some men’s sins go before and some men’s sins follow after.” This means some people pay in the here and now for their abusive activity and others will face God’s verdict on the day they stand before Him for judgment.
This meditation of abuse, and what is abuse, began for me several years ago. You see, back in my day, the days of my childhood, there were things that happened that were not considered to be abuse. Let me give you an example: My friends and I had been invited to a birthday party at one of our friends home. We were in the 9th grade. We sat on the floor in a circle, playing a game, my friend’s father came in and sat behind one of the girls, he leaned over her and touched her breasts; I am sure he did not think this was wrong. His thought was probably something like this: “Oh, isn’t she cute, her small breasts are so cute.” By the way, his wife was full-breasted.
Nothing was said, nothing was done about this violation. Years later she and I talked about the incident and how it made her feel. How many times does something like this happen to girls, to women, by men, or boys, who think nothing of it. But, to the girl, the woman, it is violation of her person-hood.
The other day some of my friends and I were talking about the way girls dress today. The low necklines, the short skirts…seem to be an invitation to “reach out and touch”. When a girl is innocent, that is, she has not yet been violated, she wants to be “trendy”, she wants to “look nice” and because she is inexperienced she has no idea that her manner or style of dress is inappropriate. And, if she does not have caring parents that will guide her in style, she becomes a target.
Many a young girl has been date raped and when confronted the boy says she wanted it, that it was consensual. There are times when a girl feels unloved or unlovely and she thinks that because the boy says he loves her it is okay to have sex. She has yet to realize the difference between the sexes. To say the least, in this area, we are wired differently.
I have had some experiences that have affected the sexual area of my life. One such time was at a family function; when I walked into the room where all the family were sitting, a male family member slapped me on the butt. Over the years this man has made lewd comments and exhibited sexual behavior toward me.
A female will feel dirty after a sexual violation because there is an unclean evil spirit behind this behavior. This is also the reason when a young girl has sex the first time, whether consensual or by rape, she feels dirty and the first thing she wants to do is take a shower.
It seems to be natural for a male to view a female as a sex object. Females do not think of themselves as objects, nor do they think of a male as an object to be used and then set aside until the need arises again.
God designed us to be sexual beings, to enjoy sex in marriage so that the race could be perpetuated and sex would comfort us and bring us together as a couple. However, the enemy of our souls is a pervert and this area is one area that perversion seems to be the norm rather than God’s way of doing and being right. However, where there is mutual respect, love and caring of the other, sex becomes a precious time of giving yourself and sharing the mutual love you have for each other, in other words, it is a blessing that affects your entire life.
As age comes on us, and it will on every person, this area changes along with every other area of our natural life. Some people are sexually active well into old age and others remain attentive and affectionate with each other without it. The bottom line for human sexuality should be genuine love and consideration for your mate, not selfishness, not “My needs” must be met.
We are in a time of transition now, a time of shifting. Such times have happened in the past, many times, and with the shift change comes. The world we live in, at least here in America, has shifted politically with the last election. But, human government is not the ruler of the world, as some would have us believe. God is the ruler of it all and He is the one who, “Raises up and takes down kings.”
What God does is not always understood, but why should it be? If we can confine God to our thinking He is too small. In general, the body of Messiah believes that we are fast approaching the end of the church age. Some have said that when Billy Graham goes on Home that this will be a sign that this shift has taken place, God knows.
We can daily see and we know that the Mid-East region is getting hotter by the day and many expect there will be war by Spring. One of these days, God will show up to defend Israel. The Bible declares it. When Jerusalem becomes “a cup of trembling” for the whole world we will see Him come to her rescue.
There are many forms of abuse as I stated when I began this article. Abuse is the improper treatment or application to a wrong purpose, or abuse of our natural powers, civil rights, advantages, and privileges. People and nations abuse others. World powers abuse each other. But, when all is said and done, abuse is about usurping power over someone or some country. Power is the issue behind abuse.
The issue of abuse all boils down to the conflict that began between God and Lucifer, the light bearer, when he coveted the power of God and was kicked out of Heaven. He is still wanting, still working to get, still trying to steal, the power and praise that is God’s alone.
Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Lucifer, called satan and the devil, seeks God’s absolute power, and for a time it will appear that he has won it. The power that satan has in and over this world is absolutely corrupt and can be seen everywhere that control over another person or nation is exhibited.
Ultimately, abuse is about power, it is about control. God made human beings to walk in liberty and freedom and that can only be attained by being in relationship with God through Jesus the Messiah.
If you recognize that you have been an abuser, repent to God and ask His forgiveness, He will forgive you and restore you to wholeness as you follow Him. If you have been abused come to God with your brokenness and allow Him to bring healing to you. God loves you, we are all sinners until we come to Jesus for forgiveness; through Him we are made “white as snow”.
God bless you is my prayer,