My heart is somewhat sad right now because of circumstances in my world. Not me or my husband, beyond that.
I have a friend who is beyond the 80 years mentioned in Scripture that we can have as humans on planet earth, actually I have a few friends that age. This friend has recently gone through a bit of a hard time.
She developed a physical problem that worsened over the period of a few days and she ended up in the hospital. Going through several days there, it was recommended that she go to a rehabilitation facility for a week.
She lost something through this experience. She is not the same and it bothers me.
I know her to be full of zest for life. Always one to be ready for an adventure, she would be ready to go at the drop of a hat if any of her friends suggested doing something.
She liked to talk about what was going on in the world, both secular and Christian. And she longed to contribute something to the world, she wanted to do something, to be involved.
When I visited her at the rehab place she was searching why she was there and came to the conclusion that she was there to bring a smile or some joy into an otherwise dark place. This she did by visiting people in their rooms and saying, “Hi!” in the halls as she met people, and always with a smile.
She came “home” to a messy place, but together we made short order of picking it up so she would feel comfortable to welcome her family members who were coming the next day for a visit.
She reported being happy with the way the visit went.
So, what is my problem? A part of the person that she was is gone, I can’t put my finger on exactly what, but I am sad. I pray that it will come back, but if it doesn’t I need to accept that.
The consolation, and there always is a consolation with God, is that no matter what happens to my friend or any of us for that matter, who we really are in the spirit will never change, never die and if we are believers we will be together as whole persons forever throughout all eternity, and I praise God for that!
One of my children has gone through a divorce this year. Never easy and always painful, divorce rips apart two people who made a covenant before God and witnesses to be together in sickness and health etc. “until death do us part”.
The relationship died before the people did. It did not happen overnight. It died by increments. Hurts, wounds, expectations not met, offenses taken and more. Like knives being plunged into flesh, blood flowed, life left and death came. The covenant was broken, the end came…separation…then divorce.
Loneliness begins to set in like cold on a 20 degree below zero day and it chills the soul. All one wants is to be warm again, to feel good again, to be loved again. It is written: “It is not good for man to be alone.” Especially, a young man. Each man is to have his own wife. Each woman is to have her own husband. That is what the Bible says.
Something will fill the void.
My child has chosen a “relationship” that will not lead to marriage. This is very acceptable in today’s world, it is not acceptable in the Kingdom of God.
The worldly person wants to be accepted, as we all do, but they want you to accept what they do as well. This a believer cannot do when it disagrees with the Word of God. Jesus never did that, no one He ministered to left His presence untouched. Only those who were in rebellion against God were not touched or changed by being in His presence. He is our example.
How then do we walk this out?
Change is not easy for anyone. Some accept it more readily than others. But, change comes to all and many times over a lifetime.
My child is my child. Nothing will ever change that, not what they say or do, nor where they go, whether alive or dead, they are my child.
Some children choose to walk away from their family. Others choose to stay in relationship but not walk closely. Others choose to continue on their pathway, expecting their family to accept who or what they have become.
There are some children who respect and honor their parents to the degree that they will ask for and consider the advice the parents give. That is called honoring your Father and Mother, a command in the Word of God.
As a friend what do I do? As a parent what do I do?
Love, unconditional love…first and foremost. Then “watch and pray” as the Bible says we are to do. Ultimately though, each of us is responsible to God for himself or herself.
If we are committed to Jesus, then we are to be led by His Holy Spirit. Being led by the Holy Spirit means that we will be led into what we are to do in each and every situation. He leads, we follow. Sometimes that is through the written Word, sometimes through circumstances, sometimes through other people etc. God is not limited by how He speaks to us.
We have an additional advantage as believers and that is that we are all part of the Body of Jesus Christ. Therefore, we can turn to another believer for counsel when we cannot see the way. Our Father, is so good to us.
We do not need to ever second guess our actions when they come from a pure heart of love because God will make sure that all things work together for good because we love Him. He is a good, good Father!
We do not need to ever receive guilt, accusation or condemnation. God is not in any of that. It is a work of the kingdom of darkness. God is love and in Him is no darkness at all.
The Word of God tells us to Submit to God and resist the devil and he will flee from us.
Stand strong on the Word of God, stay in faith that God is involved in everything that pertains to you and your life because He loves you so much.
When it is all over here on planet earth, there is Life, Love and Laughter for all eternity for those who love God, for those who have received what Jesus did at the cross for them…It is personal.
Amen, praying for you today…. God bless you, Joy