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Rejection and Insecurity

Every person is born with a longing to belong.  Every person has an innate desire to share his time, his thoughts with someone.  Every person, every human being, every one has a need to be accepted and loved.  At some time in every life, a person will be rejected, will feel rejected, not accepted, not loved.  What does this lead to?  What happens within a person then?  That’s what I want to look at today.

Dr. James Dobson, the former head of Focus on the Family, worked at a hospital early in his career. The hospital’s director called a meeting one morning.  The room was full of women as Dr. Dobson walked in and took the end seat in the front row.  In the back of the room was a table with coffee and refreshments.  The women were all seated.

The director walked in and greeted everyone.  She laid out the format for the meeting, She said that they would have coffee first and then proceed.  Everyone was invited to go to the tables in the back of the room.  No one moved.  Dr. Dobson then said, “Thank you, I believe I will.”, and he stood up. Instantly every woman in the room stood up.  He shared this story to show how rejection, intimidation and inferiority hinders, women especially, from doing what they desire to do.

On a personal level, women seem to me to have a greater need to share their lives with others than men do.  When I counsel young women, I tell them to be sure that they have a few “girlfriends” to do things with.  I have several friends, but I have a few close friends that I pray with, have a meal with, go to a meeting with or just spend time with.  My need to share who I am and hear who they are is very great.  Though I am married, my husband does not meet that need for me as he does not have a need to share like I do.

I received a call yesterday from a young woman whom I mentored for three years.  I had to stop mentoring her because she came to depend upon me and not upon God.  It had been a long time since I had spoken with her personally.  I had heard from others that she had grown in her faith, but that she was still dealing with some major issues.

Her situation is a classic rejection scenario.  When she was 18 months old her dad sent her outside to play, locked the door and would not let her in all day.  The impact of that day affected her whole life.  She was diagnosed as being bi-polar, having the intellect of a young child, even though I found her to be very quick to understand and remember the things I taught her.  Unfortunately, she did not always do what she knew she should do.

When she was six years of age her mother and dad divorced.  She and her brother were raised by her mother.

Her mother had a “boyfriend”, who sexually molested her, and subsequently she was raped several times by an extended family member as well.  Not unusual for this scenario, she has had a problem with lust her whole life.  Soul ties are formed and unless broken, they continue to dominate the soul.

She has had numerous “boyfriends” and one husband, whom she divorced because he did not meet her “needs”.  She claims to be a Christian, to believe in God, having received Jesus as her personal savior.  But, she has great struggles with her sexuality.

God loves her even though she can’t get a handle on His love or how His love is that which finally fills the love, acceptance box in her soul.  It is only the love of God that sets the soul free at last from the rejection we all receive by living in this fallen world.

Now, let’s talk about self-worth.

Many years ago, I was on a prayer journey in Europe.  Several of us went into the red light district in Holland.  It was appalling to the senses.  There was a house that was built similarly to a ship, that is to say that the front of the house was like the prow of a ship.  It was all windows and two-story.

The top room of the house was bathed in blue light.  In that room there was one of the most beautiful blonde woman I have ever seen.  She was scantily clad, posing for those on the street to see.  The lower room was bathed in red light and in that room was a beautiful brunette woman.  These two women were the advertisement for the brothel.

How could someone who was so beautiful in form and face do what these women did?  Couldn’t they have done something without demeaning who they were, who God created them to be?  What was the answer?

Many years ago a reporter was interviewing a Miss America candidate.  In the interview she complained about having fat on her stomach, to which the reporter wrote, “It was unbelievable that this beautiful girl, who looked perfect, did not see herself as she was.”

Anorexia and bulimia are called diseases.  I recently listened to Karen Carpenter sing a beautiful Christmas song.  She was a victim of Anorexia.  What a shame and what a loss to the world to have that beautiful voice silenced.

Alcoholism, something I am intimately acquainted with, is another area that many are calling a disease.  My dad began using when he was a teen-ager.  The result of a lifetime of use caused him to lose his home, his wife, his children and ultimately his life.  Unfortunately, this so-called disease, passes down the generations and there are other family members who are bound by it.

Will any of these keep you out of Heaven?  No!  The way to Heaven is through faith in Jesus.  Are Alcoholism, anorexia, bulimia, prostitution, sexual immorality very real?  Yes! In my opinion they are all the result of rejection, only symptoms of a need to fill the hole in the soul.  Self-medication…so that they can “feel” accepted.

Do these things satisfy the very real need that people have?  No!  They are temporary fixes at best.  At the worst, they take your earthly life and unless you have been born-again by the Spirit of God, they will condemn you to eternity without God, life, love and light; for eternity the enemy will torment you because you chose your sin and not God.

If you have a problem with any of the things I have highlighted today please know that the issue is rejection.  You can be set you free.  The answer is found in receiving Jesus as your Savior and your Lord.

“He (God) chose us to be his very own, joining us to himself even before he laid the foundation of the universe!  Because of his great love he ordained us, (marked us with His love) so that we would be seen as holy in his eyes with an unstained innocence.  For it was always in his perfect plan to adopt us as his delightful children through our union with Jesus, the Anointed One, so that his tremendous love that cascades over us would glorify his grace —for the same love he has for his Beloved One, Jesus, he has for us.  And this unfolding plan brings him great pleasure!”  Ephesians 1:4-6 The Passion Translation

“According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love:  Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will, to the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved. In whom we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins.”                          Ephesians 1: 4-7 The King James Version

It was this passage that set me free from rejection.  I felt like I didn’t belong to anyone.  I felt like an orphan.  Rejection consumes your mind, your will and your emotions.  It binds you like a straight jacket and colors your whole world.

It is amazing how the world opens up when your realize that God knew you before he even created the world.  How God sees you and me is so different from how we see ourselves or how others see us.  Love glasses, love lenses change everything.

Yesterday a group of friends celebrated Christmas with a friend of ours who is slowly inching toward eternity.  Her heart is failing, but her spirit is strong.  We began to sing a Christmas song and I realized that it may be the last time we have this time with her.  It hit my emotions, my soul.  I know where she is going and I have peace that she is being prepared to meet Jesus, but the thought of this one that I have shared a portion of my life with, not being here, saddened me.  I love her.

Love overcomes when we yield to it.  The God kind of love is without condition.  He loves because He is love.  He once told me that He loved the alcoholic lying in the street covered in his own vomit as much as He loved the most righteous man in the land.  I cannot comprehend that kind of love, I can only accept it and I do.

Everyone has issues that they deal with constantly.  We live in a fallen world, there is no perfect man on this planet.  But, there is a perfect man in Heaven, Jesus is there.  He prays for us constantly, because He understands what it is like to live here.  I have loved ones there and I believe that they also bring requests to Father for those of us that are here.  They are waiting with joy for us to come home.

I know that this has been long friend, but I felt strongly to address this today.  I pray that you have been touched in some way to draw near to God through Jesus.  If you have met Him, you know how much you are loved.  If you have not met Him yet…consider it.  Oh, how He loves you and me.

Affectionately,                                                                                                                                          Joy

 

 

 

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Intimidation and Other Lies

Katrina was the only girl in a family of four.  Her brothers were all favored by their dad.  She longed for favor from him too.

As a little girl her mother dressed her in clothes that her grandmother made out of feed sacks.    Katrina came to hate home-made clothes and longed for store-bought clothes.

When she became an adult Katrina exerted her independence, choosing pants and baggy tops instead of dresses or a skirt and blouse.

When Katrina was 14 years old her father began to molest her.  This was not the attention that she wanted from him, but she felt trapped, unable to fight back.  She said nothing about it to anyone for over 20 years.

When I met her, she was a tightly held, reserved woman who rarely, if ever, divulged a thought about anything.

Intimidation is an interesting subject.  Because first of all, the person who has been intimidated as a child does not know that they are bound up, they are coping as best they know how to.

Secondly, if that intimidation has come as a result of sexual abuse as a child, the bondage goes very deep into the soul.  It is like a giant tree that overshadows the whole life of the person.

There is in the person a “fight back” or “push back” reaction when anyone tries to bring constructive criticism designed to help them to be free.  And this is very hard to overcome, in fact, the only thing that can set them free is the love of God.

I know that I am loved by God, but accepting the love of other people and being able to trust them was a difficult thing for me.  I was thinking this morning about some things from my own childhood.

My grandmother took me into her home when I was 8 years old and raised me until I graduated from high school at 18.  Then, my aunt got me a job at the bank that she had worked at as a young lady.  I had no self-esteem.  I longed to be loved and accepted.

I was managed by my uncle.  He became the father figure in my life.  It was a love hate relationship.  As a young man in his “twenties”, he was not prepared for parenting and especially not parenting a strong-willed child.  His method was to “crush” whatever rebellion he saw in me.

I was physically abused as a young child and there was some sexual abuse as well, but nothing in that time that would have been thought of as sexual abuse.  The result was that I grew up to be an angry person easily intimidated by anyone with authority.

Today we see sexual abuse spoken of freely in the media.  But, very little is done to help those who have been victims of it.  Rather, they are exploited to tell their story and they are paid well to do so, in some cases.  However, most of those who have been subjected to sexual abuse do not want to talk about it.

In my case, I did not tell anyone my experiences until just a few years ago and I am at this time 80 years of age.

As a young girl I was invited to stay overnight at a classmates home.  I loved to do that as I did not live in a normal home with a mother and father.  However, that visit was just part of the pain I experienced as a child.  When we got into the bed the girl placed her hand on my genitals.  It freaked me out.  Obviously, I never went there again.

There were things during my childhood that were thought to be “cute”, such as touching the genitals of a baby while changing a diaper, or an adult fondling the breast of a young teen-ager.  Or “planting a kiss” on your mouth in the presence of your friends that embarrassed you mightily.  None of these things were considered sexual abuse at that time and yet they left scars on the soul.  You were interfered with as one writer said.

In one culture the men in the family, whether fathers, brothers, uncles or grandpas sexually abuse the girls.  I was told that few of the women have not experienced sexual  abuse and physical abuse by the men in the family.

I would hazard a guess that most people have been subjected to sexual abuse in some form or other.  I suggest that most people have experienced some kind of physical abuse as well.  But the most difficult of all is the mental abuse, the intimidation and other lies that we all face as we grow up, these stay with us into adulthood.  Our character is formed through the experiences that we have.  It affects not only our mind, but also our will and our emotions.

Dr. Seuss wrote a book called, “Old Hat, New Hat”, it is the story of someone who goes into a hat store wearing an old hat.  He wants to get a new hat, but every hat he tries has something wrong with it and in the end he walks out wearing his old hat declaring that it is just right.

It is easy to get comfortable in your skin, even though you have experienced abuse.  You settle for living below your privilege.  This settling is usually across the board in your experiences.  Your attitude is really “less than”.  You settle for less than the salary you are really worth.  You settle for more stuff at a cheaper price rather than one thing of value.  You do not see that you are a person of value and worth.

Recently the Lord asked me to be a voice for those who cannot speak for themselves.  People that have been abused are so intimidated by lies and deception that they have no voice.  I would be that voice today.  If that is you, know that I care, God cares more than anyone person could.  He also has the power to set the captive free.-

It is time for the abused to realize that though the world has dealt them a bad hand, God was not in it.  God is good.  Every evil thing that we experience is because we live in a fallen world, there is an adversary, and we make bad choices.

The world needs to wake up.  People are exploited for many reasons.  There are some who are involved in stopping sex trafficking.  There are some who are now talking about white slavery and prostitution.   Others are talking about the abduction of people by the occult for the purposes of ritual sacrifice.

This area is not status quo.  It is not comfortable.  It is messy and it is dirty.  We must wake up.

There are forces and powers of the kingdom of darkness, by the Luciferians, for instance, who buy, sell and steal children for their blood to be used on their altars of ritual sacrifice.

God cares, do we?

Recently, a case of a missing child was supposedly closed.  But, it was not closed really.  A fabrication was put forth and it gained a lot of media attention and people were glad that it was solved.  I was told by the Lord that this child was taken for ritual sacrifice.  Cover-up is a tool of the kingdom of darkness.  But, God sees.  There is a judgment for it.

So friends, I trust that I have stirred the pot a bit today, perhaps even woke some of you up to the prevailing, pervasive lies and deception that surround abuse in our society.  There are so many areas where this prevails and many stories could be told.  Both the high life and the low life are affected by abuse, it has a long arm.

What I am saying through all of this is be aware.  Be compassionate with people who seem hard to get along with, they may be carrying a heavy burden from the past.  Love people to life.  If you are a believer in Jesus and you know that you have been forgiven, then forgive as you have been forgiven.

God so loved the world that He gave His Son to be the Savior of the world.  Many, but not all, will receive Him and begin the process of preparation for eternity with God forever. In the meantime, we are ambassadors for the Kingdom of God, we must represent our King to a lost and dying world.  If not us then who?

Many need a touch from God; a hand on the shoulder says a lot to someone who is struggling with self-worth.  A listening ear for someone who is in need of letting out the “stuff” that is in their soul, not judging, criticizing, or condemning them, but understanding that “there but for the grace of God go I”.

Jesus walked among us as a human man with the love of God radiating from Him.  Moved with compassion He healed the sick and diseased, set free captives.  He caused the lame to walk and the blind to see.  God longs for each of His children to do what His Son did.  That we cannot do so has been the biggest lie ever perpetrated upon humanity.

There will come a time when we will do what He did and greater things than that will we do because He went to the Father and there He lives to make intercession for us.  There will come a day when God will do what He promised He would do, He will pour out of His Spirit upon all flesh and a great harvest of souls will come into the Kingdom of God.  What a day that will be.  It will be a quick work and then there will be a separation that takes place.

God bless you today with His love and His liberty.  May you be healed and delivered from all that oppresses you.  May you know the love of God that passes all understanding.  Nothing is too hard for God, only believe.

Love, Joy

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A Rose By Any Other Name

I met him on the elevator of the senior high rise.  “What is your name he growled?”  “It is Joy, I said”  He continued to look down at the floor of the elevator not saying another word to me.

I didn’t see him again until several weeks later when I was having dinner with my friend.  We walked into the dining room where dinner was being served.  He was sitting at a table by himself.  No one spoke to him or attempted to sit with him.  “Strange”, I thought.  Everyone else in the room was seated at a table for two or four.

When my friend and I were seated I asked who this man was.  “Oh, they say he was a doctor”, she replied.  “He is Egyptian.  One time I approached him, he was very unfriendly.  I tried to engage him in conversation about where he was from.  I mentioned that I had been to Israel when he said he was from Egypt.  That seemed to make him irritated, I never attempted to speak to him again.”

Subsequently I have been to dinner a few times with my friend, and have seen him there.  The same scenario continues, isolation from the other residents.

This morning as I was contemplating this situation it occurred to me that he was of an  Eastern religion.  They are commanded not to even eat with infidels, which would be all the rest of the world who are not of their belief, that could be the reason why he keeps himself separate from the others.

As I thought on this, the last time I was there, after I was seated, I greeted a couple that I have come to know with a wave at the husband as he came into the room.  He just happened to be behind the Egyptian at that moment and the man thought I was waving at him, and he waved back.  A look went across his face when he realized I wasn’t waving at him, but rather this other man.  I felt badly for him.

Isolation is not what man was created for.  The God of Abraham is a God of family.  That is why Jesus taught His disciples to pray:  “Our Father who art in Heaven.”

As I have been contemplating all of this, I wondered what his name is.  I don’t know, of course, but I thought, Saleem.   Looking up the name online, it means “peaceful”.  Interesting, because the man seems anything but peaceful.

As I watched him, he would glance around the room at the people, never gazing long at anyone.  I made eye contact with him a few times and began to see what was in his soul.  He is envious of the others as they eat and visit together while he sits alone.  Yet his religion isolates him from the very thing his soul is drawn to.

He got up from his table, stuffing his aluminum wrapped food into a bag hanging from his walker, walked over to a table of four and gruffly, loudly said something to them, to which they didn’t respond, except to stare at him.  Turning away he shuffled out of the room….lonely still because of his manner.

My heart goes out to him.  I would like to say to him, “What has your god done for you?  You are alone, your health is gone from you, your end is in sight and you have no one who cares for you.”

Religion is a terrible thing.  It assures you that all is well, you are on the right track and heaven awaits you when you die.  It is false assurance which leads to a place prepared for the accuser and his angels.

The God of Abraham, Issac and Jacob is the only true God.  He does have a Son, and that Son became a man, Yeshua of Nazaret.  He is the door to Heaven, there is no other way.  It grieves the heart of the Father that people refuse to walk in the way that He willed.  He has done everything He could to make His will, His way and His Word known to mankind, yet there are those who choose religion over relationship.

Every religion is based upon works.  If you do, you can be, and you can have whatever they promise.  Relationship with God is strictly based upon what Jesus did for you, you cannot add anything to it, nothing.  It is so simple a child can understand it.

Religion blinds the eyes of the spirit and keeps the blinders tightly closed over them.

Religions blocks the ears of the spirit from hearing the good news that the price for your soul has been paid through the bloody sacrifice of Jesus over 2000 years ago and you can enter into His rest through faith.

Religion promises you Heaven, but keeps you from your desired destination.

The power of agreement is virtually unknown to most of mankind.  You will become like the one you agree with.  You will take upon yourself much of the thinking, much of the behavior of those you are around on a regular basis.  Adaptation is inevitable unless you are under the influence of a spirit, whether the Holy Spirit of God or a spirit of the adversary.

Saleem, “peaceful” one, what kind of peace is the experience of such a one?  False peace.

There are two kinds of real peace.  There is peace with God that comes to a person who turns from sin, from his own way of doing and being, to embrace God’s way of doing and being.

Then, there is the peace of God that comes to someone, who is in the process of getting to know the God of all peace, who is at the same time bringing their mind, will and emotions into subjection to the Holy Spirit of God.

God’s peace brings rest for the soul.  There are also many believers in Jesus, who have never entered into God’s rest, the still strive to be what they believe they should be.  I have a friend that says of these, “They always think, ‘shoulda, woulda’, coulda’.”  True.

Friends, I trust that I have provoked you to think about religion versus relationship.  God, my Father, would have all men to be saved and come to know the truth.  Jesus is the Way, the Truth and the Life.  He is the answer to every question, the hope for every desire and the love of your life when all others have failed you.  Come to the Father through the Son.

Affectionately,  Joy

 

 

An Open Letter to My Grandson

My dear grandson:

I see you wasting your life, I see you giving the wonderful gift of life that God gave you to a spirit that is not of His Kingdom.

Kingdom?  Yes, God is a King and He has a Kingdom.  The world that you live in has two kingdoms.   First of all there is The Kingdom of Light, of which God is the King.  Second is the kingdom of darkness, the fallen angel Lucifer is the king.  You know him as satan or the devil.

Jesus, the Messiah of Israel, came into the earth to be the Savior of mankind.  What are you to be saved from?  Saved from the kingdom of darkness, saved from misery, pain and bondage, saved from your ultimate destination, Hell.

God extended His love to the Gentile world through Israel’s Savior.  But, salvation is not automatic, it must be received.  You are saved out of darkness into light only by a choice that you make.  God has done all that He could do for mankind through Jesus.  Now, the rest is up to you.

What happens to you if you do not receive the gift of life from God?

Hell was created for the devil and his angels, called demons and evil spirits.  It was not created for mankind.  It is a place of eternal torment with no means of escape.  A being is bound there and tormented forever.  There is no light, no love, no laughter, no peace…no God!  There is an overwhelming smell that nauseates a person; it is dark and there is no water there.  Every person who has not chosen to receive God’s provision through Jesus comes there when he or she dies.  There are good people in Hell.

There are only two choices, Heaven or Hell.  You choose while you live.  When you die the choice you made is where you go.  No choice is a choice, and Hell is the destination.

You are living in Hell now as you live upon the earth.  The lifestyle that you have chosen is Hell on earth.  There is a spirit of the kingdom of darkness that promotes the use of drugs.  The purpose is to numb your mind, to prevent you from having a good life and fulfilling God’s plan for your life and ultimately to send you to Hell.

The Word of God says that the Devil has come into the earth to steal, kill and destroy.  That pretty much describes what is happening to you.  He is stealing your life day by day, killing your relationships with others and destroying any hope you might have of having a normal life with a wife, children. and a good job.

Now, through the lust of your flesh you have conceived a child.  This child will not know the love of a mother and father in a home that is blessed by God through a godly marriage.  You have chosen.  It  is not well.  You will answer to God for this child.

Divorce is a ripping apart, it is spiritual bloodshed.  Your mother and father covenanted before God to love each other for the rest of their lives.  Because they chose not to do so, you children were affected, especially you.  This was not your fault.

At the point in your life when your mother threatened divorce, you reacted fearfully.  The world without God does not have a true answer, a lasting peace.  And now you are trying to numb the pain, the hurt, the wounds you received as a young boy with drugs.  This is not the answer, Jesus is the answer.

Jesus taught His disciples that God is “Our Father who is in Heaven”.  You cannot be a father unless you have children.  God had a plan to get back what was given to Lucifer in the Garden of Eden by Adam.  That plan was to send Himself, His Son, to buy back what had been given away.  This purchase could only be made through bloodshed, Jesus blood.

God has made a way where there seems to be no way.  You can get out of the mess you are in through Jesus.  He is the door to the Kingdom of God.  In the Kingdom of God there is deliverance, healing, protection, provision, peace, love and joy, the right way of doing and being.

How do you get into the Kingdom of God?

First of all, you must realize that you have chosen to reject God’s way of doing and being right for your own way.  The Bible calls this sin.

All have sinned and fallen short of the mark God has set.  There are no exceptions.  God is Holy, Pure, without fault or sin.  That is the standard set by Him for any who want to come into the Kingdom of Light.  It should be obvious that no man can meet that high standard.

This is where God’s plan to save mankind comes in.  Enter Jesus on the human scene.

Jesus was called “The Word” before He came to earth as a human being.  He was fully God and fully Man when He lived on the earth.  He never sinned.  He lived a perfect life. He died for you so that you could live for Him.  God accepted Jesus sacrifice.  He became the door into the Kingdom of God, the Kingdom of Light.

The debt of sin was so great that no man alone could pay it.  So God Himself, in the form of the man Jesus, came to pay a debt He did not owe for a debt we could not pay.  In so doing the door to Heaven was opened through Him.  Jesus is The Way, The Truth and The Life and no man comes to the Father except through Him.

Now, my dear grandson, you have been shown the door.  It is up to you to open the door and walk into the Kingdom of God.  It is the love of the Father for you that compels me to send this letter.  But, the choice is yours.

Know this:  I love you and I pray that you will be aware that the path you are on is leading you to Hell.  That would be your destination if you died today.  No choice is a choice.

Choose today to turn from the kingdom of darkness.  Jesus will help you if you turn to Him with all your heart.  Cry out to Him for mercy upon you and ask Him to forgive you for rejecting Him and choosing your own way.  Ask Him to deliver you from drugs and all the things of the kingdom of darkness.  He loves you so much that He gave His life for yours.  He will transfer you from darkness to light, you will begin a new life as a child of God.

I love you.  I pray that you will come to know my precious Savior.

 

CHANGES

My heart is somewhat sad right now because of circumstances in my world.  Not me or my husband, beyond that.

I have a friend who is beyond the 80 years mentioned in Scripture that we can have as humans on planet earth, actually I have a few friends that age.  This friend has recently gone through a bit of a hard time.

She developed a physical problem that worsened over the period of a few days and she ended up in the hospital.  Going through several days there, it was recommended that she go to a rehabilitation facility for a week.

She lost something through this experience.  She is not the same and it bothers me.

I know her to be full of zest for life.  Always one to be ready for an adventure, she would be ready to go at the drop of a hat if any of her friends suggested doing something.

She liked to talk about what was going on in the world, both secular and Christian.  And she longed to contribute something to the world, she wanted to do something, to be involved.

When I visited her at the rehab place she was searching why she was there and came to the conclusion that she was there to bring a smile or some joy into an otherwise dark place.  This she did by visiting people in their rooms and saying,  “Hi!” in the halls as she met people, and always with a smile.

She came “home” to a messy place, but together we made short order of picking it up so she would feel comfortable to welcome her family members who were coming the next day for a visit.

She reported being happy with the way the visit went.

So, what is my problem?  A part of the person that she was is gone, I can’t put my finger on exactly what, but I am sad.  I pray that it will come back, but if it doesn’t I need to accept that.

The consolation, and there always is a consolation with God, is that no matter what happens to my friend or any of us for that matter, who we really are in the spirit will never change, never die and if we are believers we will be together as whole persons forever throughout all eternity, and I praise God for that!

One of my children has gone through a divorce this year.  Never easy and always painful, divorce rips apart two people who made a covenant before God and witnesses to be together in sickness and health etc. “until death do us part”.

The relationship died before the people did.  It did not happen overnight.  It died by increments.  Hurts, wounds, expectations not met, offenses taken and more. Like knives being plunged into flesh, blood flowed, life left and death came.  The  covenant was broken, the end came…separation…then divorce.

Loneliness begins to set in like cold on a 20 degree below zero day and it chills the soul.  All one wants is to be warm again, to feel good again, to be loved again.  It is written:  “It is not good for man to be alone.”  Especially, a young man.  Each man is to have his own wife.  Each woman is to have her own husband.  That is what the Bible says.

Something will fill the void.

My child has chosen a “relationship” that will not lead to marriage.  This is very acceptable in today’s world, it is not acceptable in the Kingdom of God.

The worldly person wants to be accepted, as we all do, but they want you to accept what they do as well.  This a believer cannot do when it disagrees with the Word of God.  Jesus never did that, no one He ministered to left His presence untouched.  Only those who were in rebellion against God were not touched or changed by being in His presence.   He is our example.

How then do we walk this out?

Change is not easy for anyone.  Some accept it more readily than others.  But, change comes to all and many times over a lifetime.

My child is my child.  Nothing will ever change that, not what they say or do, nor where they go, whether alive or dead, they are my child.

Some children choose to walk away from their family.  Others choose to stay in relationship but not walk closely.  Others choose to continue on their pathway, expecting their family to accept who or what they have become.

There are some children who respect and honor their parents to the degree that they will ask for and consider the advice the parents give.  That is called honoring your Father and Mother, a command in the Word of God.

As a friend what do I do?  As a parent what do I do?

Love, unconditional love…first and foremost.  Then “watch and pray” as the Bible says we are to do.  Ultimately though, each of us is responsible to God for himself or herself.

If we are committed to Jesus, then we are to be led by His Holy Spirit.  Being led by the Holy Spirit means that we will be led into what we are to do in each and every situation.  He leads, we follow.  Sometimes that is through the written Word, sometimes through circumstances, sometimes through other people etc.  God is not limited by how He speaks to us.

We have an additional advantage as believers and that is that we are all part of the Body of Jesus Christ.  Therefore, we can turn to another believer for counsel when we cannot see the way.   Our Father, is so good to us.

We do not need to ever second guess our actions when they come from a pure heart of love because God will make sure that all things work together for good because we love Him.  He is a good, good Father!

We do not need to ever receive guilt, accusation or condemnation.  God is not in any of that.  It is a work of the kingdom of darkness.  God is love and in Him is no darkness at all.

The Word of God tells us to Submit to God and resist the devil and he will flee from us.

Stand strong on the Word of God, stay in faith that God is involved in everything that pertains to you and your life because He loves you so much.

When it is all over here on planet earth, there is Life, Love and Laughter for all eternity for those who love God, for those who have received what Jesus did at the cross for them…It is personal.

Amen, praying for you today…. God bless you, Joy

 

 

 

Restoration

Restore.  Re Store…it presents the picture of a store that is empty and it is being stocked once more, made ready for business.  To”Re” anything is to do it again.

I am thinking of the natural disasters that have taken place recently.  The hurricanes, the floods, the wild fires, the volcanic eruptions and the earthquakes that have taken place in recent months have been called “disasters of Biblical proportions”.  The earth, quite possibly, is groaning under the weight of the sin of mankind.  I think that the Bible indicates this possibility.

It is written in Romans 8:22, the New King James version of the Bible:  “For we know that the whole creation groans and labors with birth pangs together until now.”  It is possible that the birth pangs are growing stronger because the birth it alludes to is coming close.

Going back to verse 21 of the above passage, we read:  “Because the creation itself also will be delivered from the bondage of corruption into the glorious liberty of the sons of God.”

The earth and mankind were made subject to the curse spoken by God to Adam as recorded in Genesis 3: 17-19.  It was disobedience to God’s Word that caused the curse to come upon the earth and it is obedience to God’s Word that will cause the restoration of mankind first and then the earth.

Restoration can have many faces.  Damage can be done to a marriage by wrong choices or decisions.  When people are selfish the only thing considered is, “What is in it for me?”  Self at the center is a huge black hole and everything is sucked into it.

I was speaking with a friend yesterday about how easy it is to throw a “pity party”.  The problem is that the emotion of self pity is part of the process leading into that big black hole.  The end is death, relationships die because no one wants to attend a pity party.

At this time most of the Body of Christ is praying for revival or awakening.  Most are aware how evil seems to have arisen in every quarter.  The intent of the mastermind of evil is to take over and obliterate anything that is of God.  It has been said that good and evil are manifesting at the same time now, but evil seems to be prevailing.  Some are wringing their hands and worrying.  But God has lifted the cover off it all and everything will be seen for what it truly is.

Many years ago I saw a graphic that depicted what I think is relevant to where we are today.  I saw a perpendicular arrow, an arrow on the right side of it called, “Religion” and an arrow on the left side called “New Age”.  The trajectory of the two side arrows was at a forty-five degree angle.

I was given to understand that the middle arrow represented the Kingdom of God on the earth and its people.  The two side arrows were movements on earth that would persecute the true church of Jesus Christ.  We surely are seeing the movement of the New Age in the political realm.  The Globalists are anti-Christ in their thinking and doing.

The religions of the world, in general, are anti-Christ, though there is an emergent group, called “Crislam” which sees Chritianity and Islam as serving the same God and they strive to bring the two together.  Most true Christians disagree that the God of the Bible is the god of Islam.

I think it is worth noting that nothing on this earth is static.  There is always movement and it is always toward God and His Kingdom or away from God and His Kingdom, and there are always consequences for every choice made.  It is also worth noting that making no choice at all is a choice.

I have considered the “ites” of Biblical times and the “isms” of today.  As far as I can see both were and are anti-Christ.  Communism was huge in the news when I was young.  People in Hollywood were suspected of belonging to the Communist party and were black-balled because of it.  A couple, the Rosenbergs, was tried for treason against America for their suspected Communist activity.

In recent years when Russia opened up and people began to come and go, those who came out were mostly atheists, because people of faith were driven underground when the Communist party took over.  The leaders lived high on the hog and the common man stood in lines to get a loaf of bread or a piece of meat, this was the result of Communism.

I just thought of a commercial I heard years ago:  “Promise her anything but give her Arpege.”  It was a perfume that was being touted.  The isms of the world promise many things, but in the end, what they deliver is never what was promised.

Today in Communist China there is an active underground church.  The Chinese leaders allow a certain amount of religion in the official church, but if anyone rises up with true faith to preach the true gospel, he is removed, jailed and worse.  Such is the “freedom” of Communism and its close kin, socialism.

Bernie Sanders is a self-proclaimed Socialist.  He interrogated someone recently for a post in the Trump government.  He has been accused by Pastor Robert Jeffres of crossing a line and violating the constitution in that examination because he focused on the persons Christian faith.  At issue is the intent and purpose of the founding fathers of America as written in the Constitution of the United States of America respecting freedom of religion.

The so-called separation of church and state has been wrongly interpreted and the American people have been brain-washed to believe that Christians have no place in the government and if they are there, they need to leave their faith at home.  It is a compartmentalized view of religion.  However, the true Christian faith is not an addition to a person’s life, it is his life.  He is transferred from the kingdom of darkness into the Kingdom of God.  It is life-changing.  This is why it is referred to as being born-again, for literally it is like being born anew.

I want to point out that the true church of Jesus Christ is made up of people from every denomination.  I have known Catholic people and Baptist people who loved God with all their hearts and had a real relationship with Jesus.  The same can be said of every part of the Body of Christ, whatever the label applied to them.

A word of caution…the denominational organization itself is not sacrosanct, whatever the label, it is the people who are sanctified by the blood of Jesus who make up the true church.

To bring this to a close, it is my sense that God is sifting, weighing each person, giving them every opportunity to choose to follow Jesus.  I do not believe that He is judging anyone at this time.  I believe that He has souls on His heart.  It is written that Jesus died to bring many sons to Glory.

He wants people to know that He loves them and has a good plan for their lives.  His invitation is:  “Come to me if you’re weary, if you have labored long and hard and you’re tired of the world, tired of sin, yes, even tired of yourself.”  He will accept you just as you are, no preconditions.  The Bible tells us that God is love.  We cannot know that kind of unconditional love unless we turn from sin and receive what Jesus did at Calvary for us.

Today, if you hear His voice calling you to come, won’t you respond?  He is waiting for you.

 

 

 

 

From Confusion to Consecration

Confused..Chaos..Commitment..

Conversion..Consecration..Changed.

This process is what happens to a person who comes to the end of himself and finds Jesus finding him or her.

“The life I now live I live by faith in (and of) the Son of God.”  “Without Him I can do nothing.”

“He came, He saw, He conquered” and because He did, I can.  His life, His death, His resurrection, His defeat of God’s enemy is imputed to me by faith, my faith.  I believed and I received and He changed me.  I did my part, He did His…the result? Conversion.

Now I can face life, whatever it brings, I am not alone any more, I belong to Him.  He has promised to be with me always.  He has promised never to leave me or forsake me.  I take Him at His word.  I have found Him to be one who keeps His word.

I have become a stranger and an alien to the world that I once knew.  I now have a destination, a place prepared for me.  I live with that in mind. Some day I will go home.

I want to tell others about this one who changed my life in hope that they too will meet Him.

I have never known love like this, acceptance like this…unconditional.

Amazing!  I am accepted in Him. God, who is love, accepts me as I am and still…He invites me to grow and tells me that He will help me.  I am not on my own.

In fact, He sent His Spirit to live in me to do just that.  He calls Him the Helper, the Teacher, the Comforter, the Counselor. That is pretty much what I need to traverse the darkness that I see around me.

I pray this prayer:  “All of you and none of me.  Live big in me.  Let me be that light set on a hill so that others may see and come to Him.”

How about you friend, are you tired of the darkness, tired of yourself, tired of striving?  Are you ready now to “taste and see that the Lord is good?”

You too can enter into His rest.

You too can find peace with God, the peace of God that surpasses human understanding.  He is our peace who became the bridge to God, to Heaven, to Home.

Who am I talking about?  “The Word” the creator, who was with God and was God and became flesh that we might have a way to “Our Father who art in Heaven”.  His name is Jesus.

Have you ever noticed that no one swears using the name of Buddha or Mohammed or any other god?  Have you ever considered why?  Who lives having died?  Only one man.

“For behold,the darkness shall cover the earth and gross darkness the people, but the Lord shall arise upon thee and His glory shall be seen upon thee.”

His glory is coming.  He promised. Ready or not it will come.

“And it shall come to pass afterward, that I will pour out my Spirit upon all flesh.”

Most of us have never seen His Glory, nor have we felt His presence.  But if you ever have, you will never be the same.

Come, come to the Father.  He wants you to know He loves you so much He was willing to suffer for your sake. Jesus is the way to the Father, there is no other way to get to God or to Heaven.

There are good people in Hell, because being good or living a good life will not take you to Heaven.  It is not the right road.

There are church people in Hell, because going to church, being involved in church or even being the pastor or priest of a church will not take you to Heaven. It is not the right road.

Jesus said:  “I am the way, the truth, and the life, no one comes to the Father except by me.”

Either Jesus told the truth or He is the biggest liar that ever walked the planet.  You have been invited.  From this point on you cannot say you never heard.  The decision is now up to you.

“Choose this day whom you will serve, as for me and my house we will serve the Lord.”

Amen!