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Intimidation and Other Lies

Katrina was the only girl in a family of four.  Her brothers were all favored by their dad.  She longed for favor from him too.

As a little girl her mother dressed her in clothes that her grandmother made out of feed sacks.    Katrina came to hate home-made clothes and longed for store-bought clothes.

When she became an adult Katrina exerted her independence, choosing pants and baggy tops instead of dresses or a skirt and blouse.

When Katrina was 14 years old her father began to molest her.  This was not the attention that she wanted from him, but she felt trapped, unable to fight back.  She said nothing about it to anyone for over 20 years.

When I met her, she was a tightly held, reserved woman who rarely, if ever, divulged a thought about anything.

Intimidation is an interesting subject.  Because first of all, the person who has been intimidated as a child does not know that they are bound up, they are coping as best they know how to.

Secondly, if that intimidation has come as a result of sexual abuse as a child, the bondage goes very deep into the soul.  It is like a giant tree that overshadows the whole life of the person.

There is in the person a “fight back” or “push back” reaction when anyone tries to bring constructive criticism designed to help them to be free.  And this is very hard to overcome, in fact, the only thing that can set them free is the love of God.

I know that I am loved by God, but accepting the love of other people and being able to trust them was a difficult thing for me.  I was thinking this morning about some things from my own childhood.

My grandmother took me into her home when I was 8 years old and raised me until I graduated from high school at 18.  Then, my aunt got me a job at the bank that she had worked at as a young lady.  I had no self-esteem.  I longed to be loved and accepted.

I was managed by my uncle.  He became the father figure in my life.  It was a love hate relationship.  As a young man in his “twenties”, he was not prepared for parenting and especially not parenting a strong-willed child.  His method was to “crush” whatever rebellion he saw in me.

I was physically abused as a young child and there was some sexual abuse as well, but nothing in that time that would have been thought of as sexual abuse.  The result was that I grew up to be an angry person easily intimidated by anyone with authority.

Today we see sexual abuse spoken of freely in the media.  But, very little is done to help those who have been victims of it.  Rather, they are exploited to tell their story and they are paid well to do so, in some cases.  However, most of those who have been subjected to sexual abuse do not want to talk about it.

In my case, I did not tell anyone my experiences until just a few years ago and I am at this time 80 years of age.

As a young girl I was invited to stay overnight at a classmates home.  I loved to do that as I did not live in a normal home with a mother and father.  However, that visit was just part of the pain I experienced as a child.  When we got into the bed the girl placed her hand on my genitals.  It freaked me out.  Obviously, I never went there again.

There were things during my childhood that were thought to be “cute”, such as touching the genitals of a baby while changing a diaper, or an adult fondling the breast of a young teen-ager.  Or “planting a kiss” on your mouth in the presence of your friends that embarrassed you mightily.  None of these things were considered sexual abuse at that time and yet they left scars on the soul.  You were interfered with as one writer said.

In one culture the men in the family, whether fathers, brothers, uncles or grandpas sexually abuse the girls.  I was told that few of the women have not experienced sexual  abuse and physical abuse by the men in the family.

I would hazard a guess that most people have been subjected to sexual abuse in some form or other.  I suggest that most people have experienced some kind of physical abuse as well.  But the most difficult of all is the mental abuse, the intimidation and other lies that we all face as we grow up, these stay with us into adulthood.  Our character is formed through the experiences that we have.  It affects not only our mind, but also our will and our emotions.

Dr. Seuss wrote a book called, “Old Hat, New Hat”, it is the story of someone who goes into a hat store wearing an old hat.  He wants to get a new hat, but every hat he tries has something wrong with it and in the end he walks out wearing his old hat declaring that it is just right.

It is easy to get comfortable in your skin, even though you have experienced abuse.  You settle for living below your privilege.  This settling is usually across the board in your experiences.  Your attitude is really “less than”.  You settle for less than the salary you are really worth.  You settle for more stuff at a cheaper price rather than one thing of value.  You do not see that you are a person of value and worth.

Recently the Lord asked me to be a voice for those who cannot speak for themselves.  People that have been abused are so intimidated by lies and deception that they have no voice.  I would be that voice today.  If that is you, know that I care, God cares more than anyone person could.  He also has the power to set the captive free.-

It is time for the abused to realize that though the world has dealt them a bad hand, God was not in it.  God is good.  Every evil thing that we experience is because we live in a fallen world, there is an adversary, and we make bad choices.

The world needs to wake up.  People are exploited for many reasons.  There are some who are involved in stopping sex trafficking.  There are some who are now talking about white slavery and prostitution.   Others are talking about the abduction of people by the occult for the purposes of ritual sacrifice.

This area is not status quo.  It is not comfortable.  It is messy and it is dirty.  We must wake up.

There are forces and powers of the kingdom of darkness, by the Luciferians, for instance, who buy, sell and steal children for their blood to be used on their altars of ritual sacrifice.

God cares, do we?

Recently, a case of a missing child was supposedly closed.  But, it was not closed really.  A fabrication was put forth and it gained a lot of media attention and people were glad that it was solved.  I was told by the Lord that this child was taken for ritual sacrifice.  Cover-up is a tool of the kingdom of darkness.  But, God sees.  There is a judgment for it.

So friends, I trust that I have stirred the pot a bit today, perhaps even woke some of you up to the prevailing, pervasive lies and deception that surround abuse in our society.  There are so many areas where this prevails and many stories could be told.  Both the high life and the low life are affected by abuse, it has a long arm.

What I am saying through all of this is be aware.  Be compassionate with people who seem hard to get along with, they may be carrying a heavy burden from the past.  Love people to life.  If you are a believer in Jesus and you know that you have been forgiven, then forgive as you have been forgiven.

God so loved the world that He gave His Son to be the Savior of the world.  Many, but not all, will receive Him and begin the process of preparation for eternity with God forever. In the meantime, we are ambassadors for the Kingdom of God, we must represent our King to a lost and dying world.  If not us then who?

Many need a touch from God; a hand on the shoulder says a lot to someone who is struggling with self-worth.  A listening ear for someone who is in need of letting out the “stuff” that is in their soul, not judging, criticizing, or condemning them, but understanding that “there but for the grace of God go I”.

Jesus walked among us as a human man with the love of God radiating from Him.  Moved with compassion He healed the sick and diseased, set free captives.  He caused the lame to walk and the blind to see.  God longs for each of His children to do what His Son did.  That we cannot do so has been the biggest lie ever perpetrated upon humanity.

There will come a time when we will do what He did and greater things than that will we do because He went to the Father and there He lives to make intercession for us.  There will come a day when God will do what He promised He would do, He will pour out of His Spirit upon all flesh and a great harvest of souls will come into the Kingdom of God.  What a day that will be.  It will be a quick work and then there will be a separation that takes place.

God bless you today with His love and His liberty.  May you be healed and delivered from all that oppresses you.  May you know the love of God that passes all understanding.  Nothing is too hard for God, only believe.

Love, Joy















The Nicolaitans and Intimidation

Revelation 2: 15  Thus you also have those who held the doctrine of the Nicolaitans, which thing I hate.

God hates the Nicolaitan doctrine.  That is pretty strong.  There are a few things listed in the Bible that God hates, but, for the most part, the scriptures show us how very much He loves people.  So we would do well to pay attention to these hates of God and ask ourselves if we are we guilty of doing the things He hates.

A long time ago I read that the Nicolaitans were a group of people who believed in the separation of the clergy and the laity.  This doctrine is pervasive in the church of Jesus Christ even today.  My pastor says that it is much better than it was, but if the Lord hates it then it is still too much and we need to shine the light of the glorious gospel upon it.

I believe that we can see a like issue in America today in that the liberal element of society wants Christianity banned from the public square and they interpret the constitution from that bent.  God never intended leaders to separate themselves from the people they serve.  The men who served in Congress were to be there a few years, return home and a new group was to come. God’s intent was servant leaders not career politicians.

Do we not have career ministers in the church?  Was this original intent according to the written Word of God?  I have heard the term “market place minister” used today.  As far as I can see this is what scripture shows us. Paul and Silas were tent makers as well as ministers.  Right and responsibility have gotten confused as far as I can see.

My pastor wears many hats, among them she is a chaplain for one of the local public services.  She does many outreaches to the lost outside the church as well as leading the congregation to the “Water of the Word”.  I believe this is as it should be.

Jesus gave a mighty example of being a servant when he got up from the Passover supper the eve of His betrayal and washed his disciples feet.  A servant is not above his master, neither is the master to be lord over his servant.  Paul says that we are to submit to one another in love.  There is one Lord, one master, our Savior, Jesus the Messiah, it is He that we are to follow.  The apostle Paul said, “Follow me as I follow Christ.”  To follow is to listen to and emulate.  It is not to make the person a god, a star.  Much grief has attended the body of Christ by the star system.  Christ alone!  Jesus is Lord!

It seems to me that when anyone touches this area It is like stirring up a hornets nest.  What follows are explanations or expounding on the subject, but the issue is not really addressed.  I believe the reason is that there is hidden fear which controls and blinds people.  Leaders are not above attack from the adversary.

I have no doubt that it is also true that there are some, like the religious system recorded in the Bible of the Pharisees and the Sadducees of Jesus day, who do not want to lose control of the people.  They love the place they occupy in society and like the religious system before them, they see Jesus upsetting their apple cart so the final solution is to put Him to death; they deny His virgin birth, they deny the miracles, they deny Him, they crucify the Son of God afresh.

Let’s look at this area of separation between leaders and congregation.  I believe that we need to address the religious establishment as opposed to a real relationship with our God.  It is very complex and there are very many thoughts and ideas about it, but light needs to come and I pray that Holy Spirit will move upon our hearts and open blinded eyes and deaf ears that we may both see and hear what He is saying to the church of Jesus.

I attend a great fellowship.  The leaders are very transparent, They do not make us feel that there is a difference between them and us on the human level, they are not perfect or more holy, but they are sensitive to this issue and want the people to know that they are people just like we are and they deal with issues like we do.  I respect and honor them greatly and I believe that because of their transparency they garner more respect from the congregation.

Many years ago I was part of a group of people who began a new work in a small town.  At the beginning of this work all was well, but in time it fell apart.  The issues we are discussing today were a major part of that fall.  I loved the pastors and was, in fact, lead by the Lord to be their personal intercessor.  Toward the end of the ministry, the pastors turned on two of my prayer partners and told them they were no longer welcome at the services.  Because they knew that I interceded for them, they wanted me to stay, but, their actions were devastating to me and I could not continue.

Not too long after this time, while I was on tour in Israel and over breakfast one morning, I met a man who described himself as a pastor to pastors.  He asked to speak with me after the day’s tour was over.  As I was on the way to my room that evening we met in the hall.

He asked me this question:  “Do you think that everyone sees what you see?”  I did not know how to answer that question; he explained to me that I saw what others do not see and that was because of how God had gifted me.  He told me that I assumed everyone saw what I saw.  He went on to say that very often in a ministry a lay person will be gifted by God to help their pastor or the people, but because of the insecurity of the pastor or the fear of losing “their sheep” to that person, they become jealous of the gift or the person.  This intrusion of the enemy is designed to destroy a ministry. Thank God there are pastors who are secure in their gifting and calling who don’t allow this to take them or the ministry down.

Conversely, the spirit of intimidation works against lay people as the Nicolaitan spirit works against leaders.  This spirit keeps the body of Christ in bondage though insecurity and confusion.  I  believe God is working in both areas to help us understand the hindrances that we face.  The adversary desires to prevent us from fulfilling the Lord’s commission to take the gospel to the world.  But, the Holy Spirit is our helper, our teacher and in God’s time everything will align with God’s will.

When pastors exalt themselves above the people, when they see themselves as knowing more and therefore are more “special” to God than the people, when the people follow a person instead of God, and when the people feel insecure and thus unable to do what they are called to do, then the enemy has won and everyone is in bondage to the adversary and the plan of God is not fulfilled.

Additionally, how many are lost to God in nothing more than social clubs, ineffective for the Kingdom of God, only doing works in order to salve their guilty conscience, but not having the faith of God and doing “The work of the ministry”.

James addresses the issue of faith and works when he says, “What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works, faith by itself, if it does not have works is dead. I will show you my faith by my works.  For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also.”  James 2: 1-26   We see in this passage that faith and works are dependent on each other.  Works alone will not suffice, nor will faith without works, they are two pillars upon which all service in the Kingdom of God stands, Jesus being the secure foundation.

The word of God says that every believer is to be a minister.  The so-called “five-fold” ministry was to serve the body of Christ, to prepare them for the work of the ministry.  I cannot see in the Bible that they were to be separated or isolated from or exalted above the laity, the lay person.  This is the work of the Nicolaitan spirit, the spirit that God hates.  The spirit of intimidation, though not specifically mentioned in the Bible, is nevertheless to be resisted and rebuked, in Jesus name.

Lord, my prayer is that you will work in your people to bring truth to every lie or deception, that you will infuse your people with understanding and wisdom.  May every hidden thing be made known and every thing covered up be exposed in order that your will, your way and your plan and purpose may be fulfilled.  in Jesus name, Amen.

Jesus loves you, this I know!